Maybe this sounds crazy to some of you. How could a strong, independent woman, ever do such a thing as this? Surely this means I should let my husband make all the decisions on his own, tell me what to do, walk all over me, and take advantage of me while I silently make every effort to meet his demands and please him.
This might sound like a typical reaction to what it seems God is asking us as wives to do according to scripture. However, it is just one of the common misconceptions about what these verses actually mean for us to do.
I am a submissive wife.
Don't get me wrong, I make mistakes in this area almost every day. It was only recently that I handed my duty as as wife over to God because I didn't know what else to do. I started reading "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace and I knew as I read that I was responsible for a lot of the problems I was upset about. She says no matter what percent of the problems in your marriage you are responsible for, you should take 100% of the responsibility for them.
I started striving to understand my husband and meet his needs. After all, the most important person in my marriage should be my spouse. I started asking for his input on everything and following his lead. I'm learning patience and respect in bigger ways and when I feel frustrated or unsure I talk to God and it calms me.
"Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others" Philippians 2:4
"Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others" Philippians 2:4
The dynamic between my husband and I has shifted. We are arguing less and considering each others needs more.
If being a submissive wife means respecting my husband, full filling his requests as long as it's not a sin, asking him what he thinks before doing things for myself, saving time in my schedule for him as opposed to giving him what I have left at the end of the day, praying for him, and not selfishly seeking my own way, then I can do all of this!
"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18
I am my husband's helper. When I am a pleasant and loving wife who considers things from his point of view, he is happy. I am glorifying God so there for I am happy. Our marriage is better than ever.
While there are still so many that don't believe what amazing things God can do and has in store for us, I believe, and all of my needs are being met, and I credit that to God.
Sharing this post is scary. I know some of you might be shaking your head at this, and that's ok. This is for me, this is for wives seeking answers from God. This is me.
"It is better, if it is God's will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil." 1 Peter 3:17
If being a submissive wife means respecting my husband, full filling his requests as long as it's not a sin, asking him what he thinks before doing things for myself, saving time in my schedule for him as opposed to giving him what I have left at the end of the day, praying for him, and not selfishly seeking my own way, then I can do all of this!
"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18
I am my husband's helper. When I am a pleasant and loving wife who considers things from his point of view, he is happy. I am glorifying God so there for I am happy. Our marriage is better than ever.
While there are still so many that don't believe what amazing things God can do and has in store for us, I believe, and all of my needs are being met, and I credit that to God.
Sharing this post is scary. I know some of you might be shaking your head at this, and that's ok. This is for me, this is for wives seeking answers from God. This is me.
"It is better, if it is God's will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil." 1 Peter 3:17
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